GRRRRRR!!!!!!

why do i even bother trying anymore!?!? i make plans with the husband to spend time together, and he either is too tired, or too lazy to follow through. he begged for a second chance, and does nothing to make our marriage better..yes, he is not fucking other women anymore, great..but he is doing nothing to work on us...we dont talk about anything deeper than who is picking up the kids or the groceries. we spend no time together, although i have tried to plan things with him... what is the point? why do i continue to torture myself , believing that things will work out...he doesn't work for anything in his life. and i am oh so tired of trying